Kimberly observed today the peculiar difference in responses people give when you tell them that you are adopting rather than having a baby. Typically, when you tell someone you are having a baby, the response is:
“Congratulations!” ”Children are such a blessing.” ”You guys are so lucky.” ”There is no greater joy.” ”You never know how much you can love someone until you have your own child.”
In these statements the focus of the blessing is that of the child to the parents. When you tell someone your adopting, the response is typically:
“That’s so awesome.” ”Those children will be blessed to have you as parents.” ”You guys are doing a great thing.” ”At least those children will have good parents.”
In these statements the focus of the blessing is that of the parent to the children. Interesting. Why is that?


